Peer Pressure

As we grow in life, we realize that we often yield to the pressures around. Sometimes it is conscious, other times unconscious. We want to be like others; we say what they say, wear what they wear, go where they go, do what they do and try to be current with fashion trends. Some of us go to the extent of getting the exact fashion designs worn by music and fashion icons just to impress others. We want to do everything possible to gain the acceptance and approval of people around us, even if it means displeasing God, by engaging in unwholesome activities.

But, do we need to be in unhealthy competition with others in order to survive? NO! Unhealthy comparison and competition with others does no good to us, our self esteem or our relationships with others. You should periodically evaluate your present state with your dreams, goals, aspirations and targets you have set for yourself. The focus should be on improving yourself consistently and ensuring that you are advancing on the course you have charted to realize your dream.

To what extent should the opinions of friends/people matter?
When we are young, friends have more influence over how we dress, think and act than our parents (or guardians). It has been discovered that most of us do what we do because we do not want to lose our friends or be called names even though we know it is wrong. However, if you refuse to say no to your peers on wrong things, you compromise yourself, your values, your principles and standards so it is important to carefully choose your friends. It is better not to have friends at all than to have bad friends who will influence you negatively.

Time and time again, friends have betrayed each other in many ways, on this note you should prayerfully select friends who share godly values and principles. Pick friends who believe in you, believe in God and are committed to doing God's will.
How do you handle peer pressure?
Do not let friends or people around you influence you to do that which is contrary to the Word of God.

Are you a truthful friend?
Speak the truth in love at all times without fear or favour

How can you choose a Godly friend?
Prayerfully select friends and close associates. It is not everyone you meet or come in contact with that becomes your friend. God bless You.
Ngozi Chidi
culled from the Teens Torch